If you ever gained 10kg out of eating then you'll understand what I'm talking about. You'll hate the statement, "Are you fatter?" that your friends or relative sprout while looking sympathetic at you. Really? Sympathy?
That was my Friday-moved-to-Sunday talk with K. We finished our weekend gym routine (cardio-standing in awe of the pool-sauna-steam) then hungry enough to eat so much of mayo-full sushi/salad/takoyaki.
I guess we both had the experience of being in an unshapely form of a female (sorry babe) during our uni year gaining more than 10kilos due to a diet of KFC, Nando's and huge single portion of chinese food for lunch and dinner and no sport. (Well, she went for gym while I pretend I didn't need one) We didn't really care though at that time, being an Asian in a country populated by big boned caucasian was an advantage.
Then come Summer holiday and we're packing our way home. One of our girlfriend even got into panic attack the week leading to our departure date. But she has the right to be panic, we must have been looking like 'giantess' compare to the Indonesian liliputh.
Well, we did. But now, after living in Jakarta for almost three years, I am almost my high-school weight again. Why, you may ask. Here's K answers:
1. Food portion here is way smaller. Which is so true, portion in Melbourne is twice of what we are eating here and we usually eat it up to the very last rice. So basically food in Indo is not necessarily cheaper. It is just smaller and fit our stomach perfectly.
2. Mother's dietting factor. My mom is not that bad, but I know that K's mom is (again, sorry babe). But then again maybe my Mom is rather lazy and she usually told me to exercise rather than cutting my food intake. K told me that her mom watched her food portion. Well, we did ate a whole chicken at once so maybe we were a tad over the top.
3. Peer pressure. As I told you before, about my girlfriend who freaked out going back to Jakarta. Have you seen girls here? Small. Tiny. Ugh. Thennnnn.. extended family who usually said, "Kak, are you gaining weight?" "Kak, your ass look big." Then friends who told you to reduce your eating portion and praised you once you were losing some weight. Those carrot and stick approach is sickening but very effective.
Anyway, above all those losing weight tips, I guess being healthy is more important than being skinny. Haha. Learned it the hard way. (But being skinny and healthy is always another option).
Watch what you're eating. Green is good (although gross). Water is supposed to be your BFF. Exercise well. And for me.. no more fried food (dammit).
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recognition, success, or solid team-work?
Were the options that the upbeat trainer asked us, the 20-something new associates, to choose from.
It was afternoon in Sydney and people are already tired after a full day of training and I can bet that their mind already in the next pub that they will hit that night. But the always upbeat Mr. Motivational Speaker asked us to move to respective team at each corner of the room. Clap. Clap. Asking us to make a faster move, while he stood there with huge grin on his face.
Guess what, most of us (including me) were cluttered on the corner that said ‘success’ (success as in whatever we do we is a hit, every day, every project but then in alienate from being recognize by our superiors and being in a solid team).
Maybe it was what we are aiming to be at work. Maybe we are all still young that we want nothing but success, not even a good team to work with nor recognition from our respective superior. Or maybe we were just following the ‘herd’.
So Mr. MS asked each of the team why we are standing where we were.
One of the South Africa older girls from the ‘solid team-work’ group, however, said something that I still remember till today. “I guess when I was younger (she sneered) I would be in that group (pointing at my ‘successful’ group). But now, after working for few years, I thrived to be with people that I could work with.”
What would you choose if you have the option of 1. being recognized, 2. being successful or 3. being in a solid team-work, however in alienation from each other?
(I guess I would be standing with a different peers)
It was afternoon in Sydney and people are already tired after a full day of training and I can bet that their mind already in the next pub that they will hit that night. But the always upbeat Mr. Motivational Speaker asked us to move to respective team at each corner of the room. Clap. Clap. Asking us to make a faster move, while he stood there with huge grin on his face.
Guess what, most of us (including me) were cluttered on the corner that said ‘success’ (success as in whatever we do we is a hit, every day, every project but then in alienate from being recognize by our superiors and being in a solid team).
Maybe it was what we are aiming to be at work. Maybe we are all still young that we want nothing but success, not even a good team to work with nor recognition from our respective superior. Or maybe we were just following the ‘herd’.
So Mr. MS asked each of the team why we are standing where we were.
One of the South Africa older girls from the ‘solid team-work’ group, however, said something that I still remember till today. “I guess when I was younger (she sneered) I would be in that group (pointing at my ‘successful’ group). But now, after working for few years, I thrived to be with people that I could work with.”
What would you choose if you have the option of 1. being recognized, 2. being successful or 3. being in a solid team-work, however in alienation from each other?
(I guess I would be standing with a different peers)
modern women and money
What is it with today's woman and the importance of being financially independent?
Anyway, I come to think about this because I had arguments this afternoon with the man I spent the last five years with (had to admit that despite whatever, we are very young and this whole grown up things are new to us. At least it has increasingly becoming important in the past one or so year) about me and my careers.
I have an interesting career, it pays well, I sort of interested in it, and it pays well. Basically, the energy wasted are equally repaid. Anyway, in time of boredom I usually tell my man that I want to quit and get married and raised seven kids. He loves this idea because my man is apparently very traditional minded. But of course I was just bored/stressed. I mean who loves banking?
Anyway, we fought over this a LOT because I want to spend my time in the next few years taking up certificate for 'being a good analyst'. He keeps on telling me that I could do whatever I want, but why do something I don't like?
(Again, who likes banking? Maybe the person who create the system loves it, but 99% of the workforce would be in it to get some money on the process.)
And then it occurs to me today that it is possible that my strong argument was because I don't believe that he could provide for me the way I could provide myself so far. I just love being financially independent, no need to worry about asking people for money and giving a reason to buy stuff. That's the major concern if I ever has to give up this career I guess~ Being boneless
Let me start with some background check: I am an Asian young lady born circa 80s. I was brought up mainly in private school believing that girls are much smarter than boys and that, us, woman could conquer the world. Then I went to uni overseas where equality is more than just a word. I was single most of my life, although in the past five years I've been together with one man, I was brought up thinking that I will have to be independent.
On the contrary, leaving the careers behind is just a temptation because ~who doesn't want to be taken care of? Which young lady doesn't want to be able to spend days with nicest things and no longer need to be political in the office? No need to prove yourself (all done during the courtship hey). No appraisal. You could do ANYTHING you'll like. Who doesn't want all of the above?
Maybe, I just don't want to be under any man authority. (I know.. that's terrible. Isn't it?) Am I too selfish? Am I too greedy? Am I making the worst decision for keeping my career?
So really, what's wrong with modern woman and the need to be financially independent?
You know what, thanks to consumerism crap thrown at me (and tons of cute and fun dresses and my soft spot to glossy magazine and books), I would never reach into conclusion.
fulfil, like a piggy ^oo^
What it is like being content in your life? It is rare occasion for me in the past six months, but now I feel like I'm at peace with everything.
And it does occur to me that peace, contentment, happiness is not derived from material contentment. OF COURSE, the fact that I don't have to think (or making a fuss) about that is a crucial matter. But, most of ALL, peace, joy and contentment can not be bought.
In the past few moment, I couldn't stand still. It is as if someone put a light under my butt, making me restless. Unable to stay in one place. Like a lense, I was out of focus, thus the result was blurry. (I could be deep. HA!)
I hope I shouldn't return to that state anymore. I was bad, real bad. I acted carelessly, I gave bad advice *this is my biggest regret*, I was just like a kid running to lollipop dangled in a unsettling dog (or some sort). Whatever I want I have to get. It has given me the wrong competitive streak~ where I in the end isolated myself to dark.
I want to be good.
That's the only request I have for this year.
And it does occur to me that peace, contentment, happiness is not derived from material contentment. OF COURSE, the fact that I don't have to think (or making a fuss) about that is a crucial matter. But, most of ALL, peace, joy and contentment can not be bought.
In the past few moment, I couldn't stand still. It is as if someone put a light under my butt, making me restless. Unable to stay in one place. Like a lense, I was out of focus, thus the result was blurry. (I could be deep. HA!)
I hope I shouldn't return to that state anymore. I was bad, real bad. I acted carelessly, I gave bad advice *this is my biggest regret*, I was just like a kid running to lollipop dangled in a unsettling dog (or some sort). Whatever I want I have to get. It has given me the wrong competitive streak~ where I in the end isolated myself to dark.
I want to be good.
That's the only request I have for this year.
this speaks to me
"... There's nothing wrong about banking, darling, it's just not for you. You should be around people. You should laugh a little. You should write. And you should be wearing much better clothes."
Lauren Weisberger in Everyone Worth Knowing
Lauren Weisberger in Everyone Worth Knowing
whatever happen to a laid back summer?
i have been spending my time to- guess what- sew this things up + chasing zipper in a dollar shop + looking for felt linen in the riothuh. say that this vacay has turned into some monkey business (or in this case, rabbit?)
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